What we Really Talk About in Anger Management Counselling

Anger management counselling helps individuals to understand, identify and express anger and all emotions in a healthy way. Our emotions are just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to anger management counselling. Through the counselling process, together I work with clients to help them address and unravel related underlying stressors, past trauma, pain, attachment issues, communication challenges and the various reasons for anger presenting in their life. For some, dependencies, hidden behaviours and addictions are at the source of anger related problems, addressing these issues become part of the anger management strategy we create together.

Anger management is not about changing who you are as a person, but changing how you function as a person both towards yourself and others.

Anger is such a fiery emotion, sadly it keeps those you love at a distance, unable to connect or feel connected to you – leaving you feeling even more dis-connected.

There are many factors to explore and identify which may be causing angry outbursts toward partners, family members and friends. Anger management counselling has many layers, it is also about developing a better relationship with yourself and those around you, so that you no longer experience feeling disconnected from others. Choosing the right psychotherapist for you trained in anger management skills will help you come to terms with anger damaging your life.

Anger has many faces, it can present in various different ways though explosive communication, rage, verbal aggression, physical gestures, mood swings, passive aggressiveness, stonewalling, criticism and disrespectful comments, actions and behaviours towards others. At it’s worst, it can be a form of gaslighting, coercive control, manipulation and violence which are consistent behaviours with toxic and abusive relationships. Consistent anger has deep potential to erode the romantic attachment bond developed between couples to a state of almost dis-repair – impacting on relationship intimacy, safety and security.  

What is anger management?

Anger management is an umbrella term. What actually happens in these specific anger management sessions is also a broad focus on not just anger but on self-development, stress management, improving communication, focusing on self-care and improving overall quality of health and well-being with the support of your therapist.

Anger is such a fiery emotion, sadly it keeps those you love at a distance, unable to connect or feel connected to you – leaving you feeling even more dis-connected.

Why choose anger management counselling?

Many people choose personal therapy to address issues with anger and related behaviour because of the confidential non-judgemental nature of psychotherapy. You might also consider joining an anger management support group for peer support which also has many benefits. As you progress in sessions together with the experienced anger management therapist you will begin to understand yourself better, learn new coping skills and develop a therapeutic relationship which creates a strong foundation for personal growth and change.

People who experience anger often have difficulty with self-regulation, mood regulation, stress management and healthy relationship attachment styles. An important aspect of counselling is understanding and apply concepts of stress management and positive self-care habits into everyday life. Anger management is not about changing who you are as a person, but changing how you function as a person both towards yourself and others.

How long does anger management counselling take?

Anger management counselling therapy can be short to long term depending on the nature of the problem. Regular on-going attendance is most beneficial as this allows both you and your therapist time to track, discuss and adjust your progress together over time. At a minimum, give therapy six sessions to start to open up about the presenting problems in your life. A holistic approach to managing anger will be more focused on consistency over time rather than a specific number of sessions – allowing you to keep an open mind on progress.

As a relationships psychotherapist, I understand that many people commencing anger management counselling are also working through various degrees of relationship trauma and breakdown – together we discuss strategies to repair relationship bonds and rebuild trust and safety in the relationships.

An integrative anger management plan will be holistic in nature with an emphasis assessment, intervention, positive anger management tools and skills, goal setting, practical supports and using resources for healthy practical self-development. To start your own online therapy anger management counselling sessions with me get in-touch and make that positive change today, book here.   

Orlagh Reid Psychotherapy

Orlagh Reid

Orlagh Reid is an IACP accredited Counsellor & Psychotherapist, Addiction Counsellor, Gottman Couples Therapist and Fertility Counsellor in private practice based in Co. Kildare, Ireland and worldwide online via DOXY. She specialises in addiction, recovery, well-being and clinical sexology. To find out more or to book an online consultation visit www.orlaghreid.com